Dear Astrology Room
I'm an Aquarian born 22 January 1971 and since my failed marriage to a fire sign, I only seem to be able to attract earth signs, who have all been commitment phobes with a hard outer shell and lack emotional maturity.
How do I attract more fire or air my way?
Thank you for your letter. Having had a look at your chart, it's hardly surprising you attract earth signs to you. You have Saturn in Taurus - and Saturn is both an attractor and detractor! It acts like a magnet. So within yourself, you probably detest the negative principles that Taurus represents, such as possessiveness, dogged belief, stubborn mind, difficult to get close too, and so on. Yet earth signs are hardly commitment phobes (although they can take forever to make a commitment because they want to be sure) apart from Virgo who may dither and fear the worst in every relationship.
But the positive side of earth is (and your Saturn in Taurus will fight against this) is that they are deeply loyal, consistent, would save your life for you, sensual, sensible, practical and often ferociously money conscious and successful too. These of course are all generalisations, and we would need to look at each of your admirers/partners/lovers individual birth charts to find out why they are 'commitment phobes' or lack emotional maturity. However, I don't believe that fire signs or air signs are any more committed or emotionally mature than earth. In fact they are often less so.
To be honest Sarah, I imagine that you are attracting 'earth' because of your Saturn in Taurus (Saturn just hooks people in) as well as your gang of fiery planets, which are always a physical fascination for earthy types. Attracting emotional immature guys, or hard nuts to crack, may just be a current sign or outer manifestation of your own emotional or commitment issues.
You say a failed marriage with a fire sign, so why do you want more fire signs in your life? As an Aquarian, with a moon in Sagittarius surely you thrive on freedom? If not, why not? Has Saturn in Taurus taken hold over you, so that you've become the very thing you fear or loathe in others - hard-shelled and emotionally immature? Sorry to sound hard on you, but we attract into our lives what we are but usually what we are not conscious of. We attract these qualities into our lives so that we can wake up to these qualities in ourselves.
You may desire fire in your life, because you know very well how fire works within you, failed marriage or not. You may desire Air in your life, because you live and breathe it and are aware of the Aquarian side of yourself. But what you are not living out is your Saturn in Earth-bound Taurus. So whether you're collecting bulls, goats or hyper-sensitive Virgos, this earthy side of yourself needs attention right now.
Air and Fire will return, but only when you understand the earthy nature of yourself.
Blessings and best wishes
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